Monday, 31 October 2011

Having a wider heart and mind is more important than having a larger house. Cheng Yen quotation
The Law of Attraction – loa -
I find out what the world needs and then I proceed to invent. Thomas Edison
CENT Paper No.3: An Introduction to the Windows Model - frames and framing:
We learn wisdom from failure much more than success. Samuel Smiles
CENT Paper No.6: How to analyze autobiographical narratives in CENT counselling:
I never perfected an invention that I did not think about in terms of the service it might give to others… Thomas Edison
Zen Tigers and Strawberry Moments: Managing stress and anxiety:
If in day to day life you lead a good life, honestly, with love and compassion, with less selfishness, then liberation will follow. Dalai Lama
Beyond REBT - The birth of CENT – CENT Paper No.1(b)
To be where we are, and to become what we are capable of becoming, is the only end of life. RL Stevenson quote
CENT Paper No.5: The Status of Autobiographical Narratives and Stories
Every (wo)man takes the limits of his/her own field of vision for the limits of the world. Arthur Schopenhauer quotation
A Story of Origins - by Dr Jim Byrne – Narrative therapy: CENT Paper No.4 -
To succeed in life, you must understand and apply wise thoughts. Bob Proctor
Assessment and teaching in REBT
You cannot find peace by avoiding life. Virginia Woolf
Asking the client for a problem to work on... in REBT
First keep the peace within yourself, then you can also bring peace to others. Thomas A. Kempis
The Essence of REBT, by Dr Albert Ellis
Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step. Martin Luther King
Who Controls You? An article by Wayne Froggatt
Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive. Dalai Lama
Debating and disputing irrational beliefs in REBT
As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.
Misunderstandings about the simple A>B>C model in REBT
It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult. Seneca
Insight on Time Management
Success if the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.
The ABCs of REBT applied to Anxiety
What are you? What is there in the entire universe which is not you? Guangfan, zen quote
Anger Handout No.1A
Whether you think you can or you think you can't - you are right. Henry Ford
A Philosophy of Life
Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence. Vince Lombardi
First one must change. I first watch myself, check myself, then expect changes from others. Dalai Lama
REBT and Research
The key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger.
Client Testimonials: Article about successful couples therapy outcome
Until thought is linked with purpose, there is no intelligent accomplishment. Conceive a legitimate purpose... set out to accomplish it.

Saturday, 29 October 2011

I am working on a new paper on counselling for illness (#chronic pain); link will be posted here:
Crown of Thorns - A Memoir of Childhood in Ireland by Daniel O'Beeve: becoming a person; drama:
The Happiness Blog is up and running, on self care. I hope you like it:
The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor (wo)man perfected without trials. Confucius quote
More Unsolicited Client Testimonials: from counseling clients
I want to be with people who are having fun, and who focus on the positive. John Assaraf
Four online counselling client testimonials
When we begin to know ourselves, to aim our lives and target our energies appropriately, we dramatically empower ourselves. Tom Morris
Which type of counseling service is best for you?
People are scared to empty their minds fearing they will be engulfed by the void. But their mind is the void! Huang-po, zen quote
ISMHO Pros and Cons
Self knowledge is the greatest source of personal power on this earth. Norman Lear, personal development
Jim Byrne and Cognitive therapy
It is the greatest of all mistakes to do nothing because you can only do a little. Do what you can. Sydney Smith quotes
Anger Management Coaching - Part 2
The soul that has no established aim loses itself. Michel de Montaigne, life direction
Anger Management Article
I only hang out with people who are happy, who are growing, who want to learn, who don’t mind saying sorry or thank you… John Assaraf
What kinds of counselling and therapy clients do I help?
No time for your health today – will result in no health for your time tomorrow. Irish proverb
Training, Supervision, REBT Information, Research ...
One has to try to develop one's inner feelings, which can be done simply by training one's mind. Dalai Lama
Accepting and learning from our problems
To keep the body in good health is a duty. Otherwise, we shall not be able to keep our mind clear. The Buddha.

Thursday, 27 October 2011

If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love. Thich Nhat Hanh
7. Improve your self confidence, and feel better about yourself...
Focus your awareness on your body. Complete the experience of being in your body. Health awareness meditation
6. Develop better relationships with your loved ones...
What is the use of love, good fortune, knowledge and riches, if you do not give yourself time to enjoy them in leisure?
5. Reduce your stress level...
You are a living magnet. What you attract into your life is in harmony with your dominant thoughts. Brian Tracy
4. Improve your communication skills and succeed with people...
Through violence, you may 'solve' one problem, but you sow the seeds for another. Dalai Lama
3. Get over your depression and extreme sadness...
The worst thing you can possibly do is worry about what you could have done. Lichtenberg
2. Reduce social anxiety; performance anxiety; interview anxiety; exam anxiety, etc
Opportunity often comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat.
1. Manage your anger better...
Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored. Aldous Huxley
Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; s/he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed ... Epictetus
Stress Management Coaching, counselling and psychotherapy:
Don’t believe everything you hear – even in your own mind. Daniel Amen
Defeating Depression
Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes by remaining silent. Dalai Lama
Confidence Coaching, counselling and psychotherapy:
Grief is depression in proportion to circumstance; depression is grief out of proportion to circumstance. Andrew Solomon

Tuesday, 25 October 2011

Crown of Thorns - A Memoir of Childhood in Catholic Ireland by Daniel O'Beeve.
Create happiness using writing therapy:
Couples Therapy and Marriage Guidance
With courage you will dare to take risks, have the strength to be compassionate ... Courage is the foundation of integrity. Nair
Research Issues in Counselling and Therapy (especially REBT/CBT/CENT)
Nothing changes until you do!
Email Counselling
Happiness does not come from having much, but from being attached to little. Cheng Yen
Telephone Counselling
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. Judy Garland quote
Anger Management Coaching
The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved. Victor Hugo
What my counselling clients gain
The biggest mistake people make in life is that they don’t try to make a living doing what they most enjoy. Malcolm Forbes

Monday, 24 October 2011

Live every act fully, as if it were your last. Jack Kornfield
Develop a strong belief in the universal law of cause and effect: the conviction that we all ultimately direct our own lives. law of karma
Unsolicited Counselling Client Testimonials:
(Wo)man, enter into thyself. For this Philosophers’ Stone is not to be found in foreign lands. Angelus Silesius quote
Specialist Counselling Services
About Dr Jim Byrne
Information Pack for F2F Counselling at ABC Coaching
General Counselling Service
An appreciative heart attracts more of what it appreciates. TG
He who speaks without modesty will find it difficult to make his words good. Confucius wisdom
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
Long-Distance Counselling Service
Counselling and Psychotherapy Services
Counselling in Halifax and Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire
What is Counselling?
People travel to wonder at the height of mountains & the waves of the sea...and they pass by themselves without wondering! St Augustine
Real knowledge is to know the extent of one's ignorance. Confucius
The more enlightening a teaching, the more difficult it is to believe, and even more difficult to practice. TG
Six Main Coaching and Counselling Services
Honour has not to be won; it must only not be lost. Schopenhauer
The Buddha’s middle way is the course of not clinging to any experience, state, or view. It holds on to nothing .... Buddhism quotes
Never seek happiness outside yourself.
Seven coaching, counselling and therapy services
No one can (reliably) transform (all of) external life. But anyone can transform his or her impressions of it. Nicoll

Sunday, 23 October 2011

The happiness blog is updated: on writing therapy:
Happiness depends on what you can give not what you get, Happiness quote
Ask yourself: Have you been kind today? Make kindness your daily modus operandum and change your world. Annie Lennox quote
Appendix M: Completing you experience of an old anger problem
When life seems overwhelming, take things an hour at a time. Find comfort in the little triumphs. #L. Woodruff quote
Counselling and Therapy in London, Leeds and Manchester
Have the courage to get back up over and over again if you have fallen.
CENT Paper No.13: Completing your experience of some noxious event from the past
The function of wisdom is to discriminate between good and evil. Cicero quote
Rusland Assignment 6(2) - A critique of Cognitive Therapy (CT)
Let go of your attachment to the outcome. TG
How to Create, Build or Restore a Successful Marriage or Couple Relationship
Never let life’s hardships disturb you. After all, no one can avoid problems; not even saints or sages. Nichiren quote
Eighteen Principles of Couples Therapy: Principles 10-12
Your success or failure in life will not be decided by the number of setbacks you encounter, but rather how you react to them.
Pt.3 of 18 Principles of Couples Therapy - Principles 7 to 9...
Remove the internal, emotional hooks that attract you to painful situations. TG
CENT Paper No.12: Tribute to Albert Ellis, and parting of the ways
Sometimes you just have to ride the horse in the direction it is bolting
CENT Paper No.1(d) - On the conceptual errors of Frank Bond and Windy Dryden (1996)...
Those who have not asked the question are not ready to accept the answer. TG
Confidence building strategies for women...
Fall seven times stand up eight. Japanese Proverb
Improve your confidence by changing your self-talk...
The choices we make in thought, word, and deed inevitably return to us in kind. TG

Saturday, 22 October 2011

Our lives begin and end the day we become silent about things that matter. Martin Luther King Jr
The Highway Code for Couples
The secret of happiness is to admire without desiring. Carl Sandburg
Sigmund Freud's system of Psychoanalysis
The greater the obstacle, the more glory in overcoming it. Moliere quote.
Academic Assignments on Behaviour Therapy
All birth ends in death. ... All accumulation ends in dispersion. All that appears real is transitory. Nagarjuna quote.
Not what we have, but what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance.
Disputing Awfulizing and Catastrophizing: Just how bad is it?
Rusland Diploma - Assignment Six - On REBT...
‘No one knows whether death may not turn out to be the greatest of blessings for a human being…’ Socrates quote
Logical, empirical and pragmatic questions for disputing anxiety-inducing IBs
“The life of (wo)man on earth … in comparison with infinity, seems to resemble the flight of a sparrow” through a small building… V Bede
Existential Therapy and Logotherapy
What doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger. Albert Camus quote
Transactional Analysis (TA), and Reality Therapy
Life is a roller coaster. You will have your ups and downs, unless you fall off.
Sigmund Freud on Human Personality Structure
"Never give up on the things that make you smile."
Carl Rogers and Fritz Perls on Counselling and Therapy
False imagination teaches that light and shade, long and short, etc are different and separate, but they are not independent of each other.
Freud and Jung in Counselling Theory
We carry within us the wonders we seek outside of us. Thomas Browne
Background information on the Training Division of I-CENT
If we all did the things we're capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves. T A Edison
Distance Learning Courses by I-CENT Training Division
‘It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan’. Eleanor Roosevelt quote
The ABCs of REBT applied to anger
A Brief Introduction to the theory of the Good and Bad Wolf states...
Application form to join the Professional Certificate in Stress Management course
Therapy after Ellis, Berne, Freud and the Buddha: Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy:
CENT Articles and Papers on counselling and therapy, by Dr Jim Byrne
"The beginning of knowledge is the discovery of something we do not understand". Frank Herbert
Case Study in CENT Stress Management: The Case of Harry Flint
The highest form of wisdom is kindness. The Talmud

Friday, 21 October 2011

"The covetous (wo)man is always poor."
Introduction to the CENT Stress Book
Your actions show how grateful you really are. Glenn Barras quote
A new CENT paper on some limitations of the ABCs of REBT
Love is like water: We can fall in it. We can drown in it. And we can't live without it.
4(d): Links to information on diet, exercise and meditation...
A paper flower seems beautiful but has no perfume; so are the fruitless words of a (wo)man who speaks them but does them not. Integrity
2(d): Links to Counselling Services
3(d): Links to free information on counselling and therapy systems and models...
"S/He is rich who is satisfied." Thomas Fuller
How to buy CENT e-book No.2 - Integrating Cognitive & Emotive Counselling & Therapy
In this evanescent panorama of life all things and objects are subject to transmutation and dissolution. change is the law of life
Foreword to CENT e-book No.2: Integrating cognitive and narrative therapy…
We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future. GB Shaw quote
Happiness blog: Writing in your diary could make you happy, or happier:

Thursday, 20 October 2011

Happiness blog:
Exploring 'frame theory' in CENT e-book No.2... #narrative therapy and cbt, frame theory:
‘#Courage is very important and like a muscle is strengthened by use’. Ruth Gordon
Assessment and teaching in REBT:
It takes courage to face one’s own shortcomings, and wisdom to do something about them. Edgar Cayce quote
Asking the client for a problem to work on...:
The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and for deeds left undone.
An effective new philosophy:
Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand. Baruch Spinoza quotation.
The Essence of REBT, by Dr Albert Ellis:
Refuse to lower yourself to the level of your antagonist. TG
Who Controls You? An article by Wayne Froggatt:
#rebt theory
'A heart filled with anger has no room for love.'
Debating and disputing irrational beliefs in REBT:
‘The next message you need is always right where you are’. Ram Dass
Misunderstandings about the simple A>B>C model of REBT/CBT:
The pursuit of truth attracts critics. TG.
Insight on Time Management:
"Smooth seas do not make skilful sailors." - African Proverb
The ABCs of REBT applied to Anxiety:
Change can't be avoided & provides the opportunity for innovation & gives you the chance to demonstrate ur creativity. Keshavan Nair
Defeating Depression:
Focus on the positive in your life, for what you focus on increases. TG PMA Buddhist philosophy

Wednesday, 19 October 2011

Only love can bring us peace. And the experience of love is a choice we make, a mental decision ... Good Wolf
Great good is often born of one small act of kindness. zen quotes
Confidence Coaching:
Where would there be an opportunity to learn if not in the world of imperfection?
The truth is that life is hard and dangerous…that life is only for the one who is not afraid to die. Joyce Carey.
Client Testimonials: Article about successful couples counselling:
Couples Therapy and Marriage Guidance:
Remember that each person is responsible for her/his own behaviour
Unsolicited Counselling Client Testimonials: 2:
‘Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results’. Albert Einstein
REBT and Research:
Jim Byrne and Cognitive therapy:
International Society for Mental Health Online (ISMHO) Pros and Cons:
Let’s keep this simple. 1. Be here. 2. Be open. zen buddhism
If a (wo)man lives without inner struggle & everything happens in him/her without opposition… s/he will remain much as s/he is. Gurdjieff
Long-Distance Counselling Service:
If this world were a perfect place where would souls (psyches) go to school?
Email Counselling:
Counselling in Halifax and Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire:
Every thought you have makes up some segment of the world you see!
It's easy to shield our bodies against arrows from without, but not to shield our minds from poisoned darts from within. Buddha quotes
Anger Management Coaching:
Free Anger Management Article:
It is every (wo)man's obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what s/he takes out of it. Einstein quotations
‘Success is goals and all else is commentary’. Brian Tracy quotations

Tuesday, 18 October 2011

How to be happy:
Literature review on how to control anger:
As a (wo)man thinks so does s/he become. Every (wo)man is the son/daughter of his/her own works. Cervantes quote
What do my counselling clients gain?:
Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain.
What kinds of counselling clients are helped by Dr Jim Byrne?:
Be willing to accept the shadows that walk across the sun.
How Can Counselling Help?:
Try this. Spend an afternoon – walking, driving, eating – all experienced as if for the first time. Fresh, new, open
What is Counselling?:
Pay attention to your life: attention, attention, attention.
Training, Supervision, REBT Information, Research and Books:
Forget your weaknesses! Think courage
Philosophy, Happiness and Success:
Accepting and learning from our problems:
You understand that you are healed when you give healing. CIM
Specialist Counselling Services:
Life can only be understood backwards, but it has to be lived forwards. Kierkegaard quote
General Counselling Service:
Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom. T. Isaac quote

Sunday, 16 October 2011

About Dr Jim Byrne, Counsellor:
The truest greatness lies in being kind, the truest wisdom is a happy mind. Ella Wheeler Wilcox
Six Main Coaching and Counselling Services:
Keep a gratitude journal. Write down half a dozen things every day that you are grateful for…
ABC Coaching & Counselling Services, REBT/CBT/CENT, Halifax, Hebden Bridge, Worldwide:
It’s the distance between us which makes it possible for each to see each other whole against the sky. Rainer Maria Rilke
Counselling and Therapy in Edinburgh, EH1 1SD
A wonderful closeness can exist between two people, if they succeed in loving the distance between them. Rainer Maria Rilke
Current copy of the ABC Counselling and Therapy Newsletter...
Never compare yourself with others. Measure your own progress instead. invidious comparisons
Counselling and Therapy in London, NW1 2AJ
Never apologise for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologise for the truth. Benjamin Disraeli
Narrative Therapy & Writing Therapeutic Narratives
Have more fun. Apparently children laugh approximately 400 times a day yet adults laugh only about 20 times a day.
Counselling and Therapy in York, YO24 1AA
Even between the closest people infinite distances continue to exist; from this a wonderful closeness can grow up… Rainer Maria Rilke
Membership services for counsellors, psychotherapists, counselling psychologists, etc...
Instead of trying to stop thoughts, just look directly into that which is aware of them. self awareness
Counselling and psychotherapy in Wilmslow, SK9 4EY
Things are not as they seem – and nor are they otherwise. Buddhist sutra
Counselling processes need the support of Attachment theory...
Take action. If something is worrying you, take appropriate action. Think about it on paper. Work out a solution, and act!
What is Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy (#CENT)?
"Direct your anger toward problems - not people; focus your energies on answers not excuses." William #A Ward quotation, quotes
Seven counselling specialisms
"The sovereign invigorator of the body is exercise, and of all the exercises walking is the best." Thomas Jefferson quotation
The six main counselling services
Improve you self confidence and feel better about yourself:
Couples Therapy and Marriage Guidance
What we truly and earnestly aspire to be, that in some sense we are. Anna Jameson
Counselling and Therapy in Hebden Bridge, West Yorkshire
Countries like ours are full of people who have all of the material comforts they desire, yet lead lives of quiet ...desperation. B Levin
Telephone Counselling
Don't make vague requests: Let others know specifically what you are feeling, want or need. Nobody can read your mind. communication
What is Counselling?
Dance! Put on your favourite music, turn it up loud and dance!
ABC Coaching & Counselling Services, by Telephone and Face-to-Face.
Better relationships for couples and families and others:
16 videos on counselling and therapy
"Take heart: marriage is more elegant than we dare believe. It can bring you bliss, but it’s harder than many people recognize." David Schnarch
Counselling and psychotherapy in Manchester, M60 2DS
Don't act when most angry. Anger management advice
What is Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (#REBT)?
Check out the Equality Trust:
Counselling supervision services...
‘There is no coming to consciousness without pain’. C.G. Jung quote
PERFINK YOUR WAY TO HAPPINESS A WEEKLY BLOG (Perfink = to perceive / feel / think).
More equal societies work better for everybody:
equality, nem
Counselling and Therapy in Hebden Bridge and Halifax, West Yorkshire
One great mistakes you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one. Elbert Hubbard

Saturday, 15 October 2011

Counselling and Therapy in Leeds, LS1 1PJ
No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. Aesop quote
What is Transactional Analysis, and how is it used in CENT?
Eliminate depression:
Narrative and cognitive counselling and therapy:
Happiness for you:

Friday, 14 October 2011

Counselling for anger, anxiety, depression, stress, self-confidence and couples therapy:
The six main counselling services
The most wasted of all days is one on which one has not laughed. Nicolas Chamfort
Couples Therapy and Marriage Guidance
Happiness never decreases by being shared. Buddha quote
Telephone Counselling
We have to learn to be our own best friends before we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.
What is Counselling?
"There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." Anais Nin, self-growth
ABC Coaching & Counselling Services, by Telephone and Face-to-Face.
We probably wouldn’t worry about what other people think of us if we could know how seldom they do”. Olive Miller
You can do almost anything if you have enthusiasm.
16 videos on counselling and therapy
Counselling and psychotherapy in Manchester, M60 2DS
It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s what you think you are not!
What is Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (#REBT)?
"To make yourself crazy, get involved in other people's business; To quickly become sane and happy, mind your own..." Melody Beattie
Counselling supervision services...
If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not try to raise your price. Anonymous - self concept
"The important thing is this: to be able, at any moment, to sacrifice what we are for what we could become." Charles Dubois
Counselling and Therapy in Hebden Bridge and Halifax, West Yorkshire
Put your future in good hands – your own. Anonymous quote
Work hard, play often and live in love. Stuart and Linda McFarlane
The six main counselling and therapy services
Counsellors help us to become alert and aware – unlike alcohol and drugs.
CENT Paper No.12: Tribute to Albert Ellis, and parting of the ways
You can’t make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear. English proverb
2. Reduce social anxiety; performance anxiety; interview anxiety; exam anxiety, etc
Kindness is good for your heart and your immune system, and it may even help you to live longer. David Hamilton
Virtue is its own reward.
Pt.3 of 18 Principles of Couples Therapy - Principles 7 to 9...
Being grateful is an act of kindness to those around us... It is saying (from the heart), ‘Thank you for being you’. David Hamilton
Eighteen Principles of Couples Therapy: Principles 10-12
Character consists of what you do on the third and fourth tries. James Michener
1. Manage your anger better...
The greatest pleasure I know is to do a good act by stealth, and to have it found out by accident. Charles Lamb
How to Create, Build or Restore a Successful Marriage or Couple Relationship
When I was young, I observed that nine out of ten things I did were failures. I didn’t like that outcome, so I did ten times more work! GB Shaw
ABC Coaching & Counselling Services, by Telephone and Face-to-Face. Established 1998
Spend time with children. Their natural zest for life is infectious.
Therapy after Ellis, Berne, Freud and the Buddha
Don’t wait for a light to appear at the end of the tunnel, stride down there… and light the bloody thing yourself. Sara Henderson
The happiness blog is up and running: how to be happy:
Are you unhappy? Do you want to be happy? The happier happiness blog:

Thursday, 13 October 2011

Are you unhappy? Do you want to be happy?
Scientific studies show that kindness can make you happier; it can alleviate depression and improve your relationships. David Hamilton
A one page counselling solution for depression...
Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action. Disraeli
Seven counselling specialisms
Money is like muck, not good except it be spread. Francis Bacon - nem, banking crisis
Don’t be afraid to take a big step if one is indicated. You can’t cross a chasm in two small jumps! Lloyd George
Quick Intro to the Six Windows Model of CENT - frame theory
If you want a strategy to increase your happiness … gratitude is something that doesn’t have side effects. Robert Emmons