Sunday, 28 February 2010
Friday, 26 February 2010
Hi, Today's Happiness Blog post is about cleaning up unhappy experiences from the past: http://ping.fm/km6qI
Thursday, 25 February 2010
Wednesday, 24 February 2010
Hi, Have you read CENT Paper No.10 yet - on The Story of Relationship? What did you think? http://ping.fm/EwAUI
Monday, 22 February 2010
Sunday, 21 February 2010
Saturday, 20 February 2010
Friday, 19 February 2010
Thursday, 18 February 2010
Hi, Still working hard on the editing of CENT Paper No.10. This one is a hum-dinger! If you have any unfinished business from your childhood, this will help to clear it up. When it is ready, I will post it at http://ping.fm/MiNEb Best wishes, Jim
Wednesday, 17 February 2010
Hi, I am now working on the final stages of CENT Paper No.10, which is also Chapter 13 of the draft e-book on the Birth of Cognitive Emotive Narrative Therapy. http://ping.fm/84vf2 Best wishes, Jim
Friday, 12 February 2010
Hints and tips on how to be happy
Hi, I have just updated the Happiness Blog on my website, here:
http://www.abc-counselling.com/2010.02.01_arch.html
This blog post contains lots of useful hints and tips on how to have a happier life. The post begins like this:
CALM, SERENE HAPPINESS IS THE PRIZE TO AIM FOR
By Dr Jim Byrne
Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2010
In the past, I have distinguished between calm, serene happiness, and excited, aroused happiness.
Excited, aroused happiness occurs in response to something that you strongly desired and got; or something that surprised you which was positive. It comes from outside of you.
Calm, serene happiness occurs when you are at peace with the world, and you have a positive mental attitude that is not dictated by the external world. This is what Seneca meant when he said:
"True joy is serene".
Aristotle believed that our deepest happiness comes from living a good life. What he meant was that moral functioning translates into happy functioning. That's why I always say: to live the good life, you have to be willing to live a good life.
An element of this idea is caught in the following quote from Maeterlinck:
"Above all, let us never forget that an act of goodness is in itself an act of happiness. It is the flower of a long inner life of joy and contentment; it tells of peaceful hours and days on the sunniest heights of our soul". Count Maurice Maeterlinck
...The Happines Blog is continued here...Think your way to happiness...
Best wishes,
Jim
Dr Jim Byrne
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services
jim.byrne@abc-counselling.com/
~~~
http://www.abc-counselling.com/2010.02.01_arch.html
This blog post contains lots of useful hints and tips on how to have a happier life. The post begins like this:
CALM, SERENE HAPPINESS IS THE PRIZE TO AIM FOR
By Dr Jim Byrne
Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, 2010
In the past, I have distinguished between calm, serene happiness, and excited, aroused happiness.
Excited, aroused happiness occurs in response to something that you strongly desired and got; or something that surprised you which was positive. It comes from outside of you.
Calm, serene happiness occurs when you are at peace with the world, and you have a positive mental attitude that is not dictated by the external world. This is what Seneca meant when he said:
"True joy is serene".
Aristotle believed that our deepest happiness comes from living a good life. What he meant was that moral functioning translates into happy functioning. That's why I always say: to live the good life, you have to be willing to live a good life.
An element of this idea is caught in the following quote from Maeterlinck:
"Above all, let us never forget that an act of goodness is in itself an act of happiness. It is the flower of a long inner life of joy and contentment; it tells of peaceful hours and days on the sunniest heights of our soul". Count Maurice Maeterlinck
...The Happines Blog is continued here...Think your way to happiness...
Best wishes,
Jim
Dr Jim Byrne
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services
jim.byrne@abc-counselling.com/
~~~
Wednesday, 10 February 2010
Friday, 5 February 2010
Business Success Blog...Manage that Crisis
Hi, I have just updated the Business Success Blog - on Friday 5th February 2010 - at this address:
http://www.abc-counselling.com/id164.html
The current post begins like this:
Principal No.7: Manage the crisis
In any business crisis or crunch point:
You've got to manage that crisis
Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, February 2010
1. Introduction
I have often heard and read that, in written Chinese, there is only one hieroglyph to represent both ‘crisis' and ‘opportunity', yet many people in business insist on framing their business crises as purely negative events. One of the main reasons for doing so is that they hate change, and they want to stay in their ‘comfort zone' - the known and the familiar.
However, in Buddhism it is said that "Change is the law of life". You cannot avoid change, and some of that change will involve growth, and some will involve decline and death. And the essence of Spencer Johnson's message, in his book ‘Who Moved My Cheese?' is that "The ability not only to accept change but to create it is a mark of the dynamic individual". ('50 Success Classics' by Tom Butler-Bowdon, page 168).
Brian Tracy, in his ‘Crunch Points' book, defines a business crisis as an event that is highly disruptive; an emergency; and a red alert situation. He indicates that we should not expect to be fearless in that kind of situation, but quotes Beverly Smith to the effect that: "To be courageous means to be afraid but to go a little step forward anyway". So don't expect to be unafraid, but do try to be courageous in the face of those fears that you have about your business crisis.
When a business crisis hits, and it's your business, you must take total charge immediately. Your first priorities should normally be to: (a) control the cash flow and ‘prevent the hemorrhaging of funds'; (b) put on your ‘white hat' and collect all relevant information about the nature of the crisis; (c) use a thinking heuristic (like De Bono's To-Lo-Po-So-Go[1]) to solve the problem; and: (d) make a decision and get into action.
...continued here...the business success blog...
Best wishes,
Jim
Dr Jim Byrne
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services
jim.byrne@abc-counselling.com
~~~
http://www.abc-counselling.com/id164.html
The current post begins like this:
Principal No.7: Manage the crisis
In any business crisis or crunch point:
You've got to manage that crisis
Copyright (c) Jim Byrne, February 2010
1. Introduction
I have often heard and read that, in written Chinese, there is only one hieroglyph to represent both ‘crisis' and ‘opportunity', yet many people in business insist on framing their business crises as purely negative events. One of the main reasons for doing so is that they hate change, and they want to stay in their ‘comfort zone' - the known and the familiar.
However, in Buddhism it is said that "Change is the law of life". You cannot avoid change, and some of that change will involve growth, and some will involve decline and death. And the essence of Spencer Johnson's message, in his book ‘Who Moved My Cheese?' is that "The ability not only to accept change but to create it is a mark of the dynamic individual". ('50 Success Classics' by Tom Butler-Bowdon, page 168).
Brian Tracy, in his ‘Crunch Points' book, defines a business crisis as an event that is highly disruptive; an emergency; and a red alert situation. He indicates that we should not expect to be fearless in that kind of situation, but quotes Beverly Smith to the effect that: "To be courageous means to be afraid but to go a little step forward anyway". So don't expect to be unafraid, but do try to be courageous in the face of those fears that you have about your business crisis.
When a business crisis hits, and it's your business, you must take total charge immediately. Your first priorities should normally be to: (a) control the cash flow and ‘prevent the hemorrhaging of funds'; (b) put on your ‘white hat' and collect all relevant information about the nature of the crisis; (c) use a thinking heuristic (like De Bono's To-Lo-Po-So-Go[1]) to solve the problem; and: (d) make a decision and get into action.
...continued here...the business success blog...
Best wishes,
Jim
Dr Jim Byrne
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services
jim.byrne@abc-counselling.com
~~~
Thursday, 4 February 2010
The Happiness Blog - Acceptance and Regard
I have just updated the Happiness Blog - on Thursday 4th February 2010 - on the subject of Unconditional Positive Regard and Unconditional Self Acceptance, here:
http://abc-counselling.com/id143.html
This is how the post begins:
REGARD AND ACCEPTANCE: DEFINING TERMS
This blog post is designed to clarify some words and concepts that I used last week. By the end of this post, you should have a much clearer idea of what it being described and proposed here.
Last Friday I wrote about ‘Unconditional Positive Regard', which is an attitude of mind promoted by Carl Rogers. I did that as a prelude to thinking and writing about ‘Unconditional Self Acceptance', the alternative attitude of mind promoted and recommended by Albert Ellis.
To clarify this a little: Carl Rogers, who created person-centred, or non-directive, counselling, recommended that we should all treat ourselves and each other with Unconditional Positive Regard (UPR). On the other hand, Albert Ellis - who was originally influenced by Rogers' ideas, and who then moved on to study psychoanalysis, and finally to develop his own system of therapy (called Rational Therapy) - recommended that we should all offer ourselves and each other Unconditional (Self or Other) Acceptance.
On Saturday morning I had to see a client in Halifax. On the way to the office I stopped at Café Nero for a green tea and a sandwich, and while I sat there I wrote some notes in my pocket notebook. Essentially I was thinking about you (dear reader) and wondering what sense you can make of this presentation of ideas, and whether it might be a good idea to clarify some of these terms. I therefore wrote down what I thought might be your questions, with the intention of answering those questions in this week's blog post. And so here they are:
...continued here...
Best wishes,
Jim
Dr Jim Byrne
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services
jim.byrne@abc-counselling.com
~~~
http://abc-counselling.com/id143.html
This is how the post begins:
REGARD AND ACCEPTANCE: DEFINING TERMS
This blog post is designed to clarify some words and concepts that I used last week. By the end of this post, you should have a much clearer idea of what it being described and proposed here.
Last Friday I wrote about ‘Unconditional Positive Regard', which is an attitude of mind promoted by Carl Rogers. I did that as a prelude to thinking and writing about ‘Unconditional Self Acceptance', the alternative attitude of mind promoted and recommended by Albert Ellis.
To clarify this a little: Carl Rogers, who created person-centred, or non-directive, counselling, recommended that we should all treat ourselves and each other with Unconditional Positive Regard (UPR). On the other hand, Albert Ellis - who was originally influenced by Rogers' ideas, and who then moved on to study psychoanalysis, and finally to develop his own system of therapy (called Rational Therapy) - recommended that we should all offer ourselves and each other Unconditional (Self or Other) Acceptance.
On Saturday morning I had to see a client in Halifax. On the way to the office I stopped at Café Nero for a green tea and a sandwich, and while I sat there I wrote some notes in my pocket notebook. Essentially I was thinking about you (dear reader) and wondering what sense you can make of this presentation of ideas, and whether it might be a good idea to clarify some of these terms. I therefore wrote down what I thought might be your questions, with the intention of answering those questions in this week's blog post. And so here they are:
...continued here...
Best wishes,
Jim
Dr Jim Byrne
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services
jim.byrne@abc-counselling.com
~~~
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