Friday 29 January 2010

Fairness, Madenss and Carl Rogers

Hi, I have just now (Friday 29th Jan) updated my Happiness Blog, here:

http://www.abc-counselling.com/id143.html

This is how the post begins:

THE HAPPINESS BLOG: THE LINK BACK TO REBT


BEGINNING WITH "THE MADNESS OF UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD"

Fairness
Last week I wrote about the importance of fairness and justice, and how counsellors and therapists need to be careful not to dismiss the client's ‘unfairness issues'. We need to respect the rights of clients, and to recognize that they may be being victimized by others, and we need to be on their side in teaching them how to defend themselves in life, and how they can become assertive individuals.

Of course, as I said, there will be some immoral actions (committed by others) which our clients cannot control, and once they have definitely established that they cannot control them, they need to let them be. "When it's raining, we just let it rain!" Why do we let it rain when it's raining? Because a human individual, or a human group, cannot push the rain back up into the clouds. And sometimes we cannot push an immoral action back into its source. But we do not thereby excuse that action, or say it is unimportant that immoral acts occur in the world.

We should be concerned citizens, and concerned individuals, and we should (morally) care about the suffering of others. We should (morally) teach people to accept the (immoral) things they cannot control, and to control the (immoral) things they can control.

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Best wishes,
Jim

Dr Jim Byrne
ABC Coaching and Counselling Services

jim.byrne@abc-counselling.com/

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